encryptedbytes
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As a child who's father left while I was pretty young and grew up with an abusive step-father, I'd like to offer you a little advice...
Don't think you're just going to assume the father's role as the authoritarian and don't think you are owed any respect. Your relationship is with your wife first and a relationship with her kids is not automatic.
Unless you develop a proper relationship with your wife's children and earn their love and respect, you run the risk of wholesale rejection by the children. Don't push yourself on them. You're not their father until they decide you are.
Please share our thoughts and experiences. I'd like to hear from people on both sides of the equation, step-fathers and children of step-fathers.
Don't think you're just going to assume the father's role as the authoritarian and don't think you are owed any respect. Your relationship is with your wife first and a relationship with her kids is not automatic.
Unless you develop a proper relationship with your wife's children and earn their love and respect, you run the risk of wholesale rejection by the children. Don't push yourself on them. You're not their father until they decide you are.
Please share our thoughts and experiences. I'd like to hear from people on both sides of the equation, step-fathers and children of step-fathers.