I have a problem that I don't know how to address. My wife has to deal with three of my kids on their every other weekend and two weeks in the summer visitation. She has our child too who is rather young. The three older ones think I defer to her to set the rules of the house but they aren't here all of the time. When they are here, they pretty much want to do as they please. I've tried to explain this to them and let them know that it is "our" rules they are following but they think otherwise. They are at the point that they don't want to visit. I can't allow them to not have any discipline when they're here but they hold the fact that they can choose not to come to our house for their visitation. What should I do? I really want them here and to see them but they really push it.