Single-Parent Sex Dos And Don’ts

When you are a single parent there are many things that you may want to enjoy when your kids aren’t around. Sexual intimacy is something that many single parents want to enjoy. However, figuring out what the right time is can be an interesting trick. There are many situations that you may find yourself in that you don’t really want to deal with. There are ways to handle situations and there are things that you absolutely don’t want to do when it deals with your sex life while you are single.

Depending on the age of your kids they may be aware of what you spending alone time with someone in your bedroom means. When they are young things seem more innocent, however don’t think because your kids are young that they have no clue what is going on. You have to be very aware of the things that are going on around you when you have decided to bring someone home.

If the person you have decided to bring home is not someone who you are planning on being a constant in your child’s life, you may want to have them come over after the child’s bedtime. This way the child doesn’t come in contact with the person. Younger children can become quickly attached to any adult who comes into their life and they may wonder why they don’t see that person anymore. With people who fall into this category, you may want to consider hiring a baby sitter and having your fun at a hotel or your partners home.

If you are having sexual relations with someone who you have long term interest in, then you should take the time to have them over for dinner. Let them meet your kids and see how they interact with your children. Young kids are open and honest about people. Many times you can judge your mate’s character by the way your children react to them. You want to have someone in your life that loves kids and will make a good parental figure in the future. This is a great way to see how they will react in family situations. You can have your alone fun after the kids have gone to bed.

After the kids are in bed and you want to have your adult time, there are a few things to keep in mind. Kids wake up and go to the bathroom or want something to drink. Don’t have your sexual time in an area of the house that the kids can just wander into. You will end up in a situation you really don’t want to be in. Don’t send the kids to bed early because you want to spend time with your partner. The kids may see this as favoritism towards the new person and may build feelings of resentment towards you or your partner. Lock the bedroom door. There is nothing more embarrassing than having a child walk in the room while you are in the middle of making love. Remember that even though the door is locked, your child may still need you. If they come knocking, don’t ignore them or yell at them to go away. Your child will not understand why the person in there with you is more important than their needs.

Talk to your children about their thoughts on you having a new partner. Some kids may not be ready to handle another parental figure in their life. If you have a child who has problems accepting another figure, you may want to keep your partner away for a while. Give your child the time he or she needs to adjust to this new life and then slowly work someone else in. Introduce them as a friend and refrain from having much physical contact with them while the kids are awake. You can even have them over for dinner and have them leave before the kids go to bed. This will show your kids how important they are to you and that no one else can take their place.