We all make mistakes, even though we may not like to admit it. Being a dad is one of the hardest jobs in the world, and once you throw step kids into the mix, the role gets even harder. There’s no one right way to stepparent, as you’ll have to tailor your approach based on the ages and genders of your stepchildren. But there are some mistakes that you can avoid right off the bat. In fact, these mistakes are some of the worst you can make and to some children, unforgiveable.
With the divorce rate so high today, it is not uncommon for a parent to marry and have children from a previous relationship. Step parenting is a little more complicated than parenting your own biological kids. There are other parents involved, but building a successful blended family is possible with a little work and effort.
Let’s face it – it’s difficult enough to be a parent to your own children, but what about being a stepparent? Research shows that it takes an average of five to seven years for a stepfamily to accept their new roles and have stress levels return to normal. While you can’t speed up the clock on this one, there are proactive steps you can take to bond with your stepchildren. Like most men, you want to take care of your family, and you can only do this by having positive relationships with everyone in the household.
Raising biological children is challenging enough, but when you become a stepfather, forming relationships can be much more difficult. When you first enter your stepdaughter’s life, you can expect a ‘honeymoon’ period, before she may ultimately become distant. This is because the reality of your presence in her life has finally started to settle in. She may not understand why her mother has found a replacement for her father, and may blame you for the major changes she will have to endure. She will need some time, sometimes a lot of time, to come to the realization that you are there to stay. There are many things that a stepfather can do to facilitate the process.