My 14-year old daughter collects all kinds of Manga comics. She likes them so much that she fills her room with pictures of manga characters, wears manga accessories, writes and sketches manga, and goes online just to read manga. My wife and I were okay with all these, until we found her notes containing manga swear words and pornography. My daughter has limited access to the net but she sometimes begs off to stay home, alone when the family needs to go out somewhere. We thought she would just be studying, but now, we couldn't be sure. So, how should we confront her without her feeling embarrassed and shutting us out completely?