I think its harder for men in this situation because men dont naturally have the kind of nurturing spirit that a woman has.
I don't wish a custody battle on any man, or woman for that matter. But I went through one, 13 years ago, and fortunately was awarded full custody of my then 3 year old daughter and 4 year old son.
One of the things I stated, through my attorney, when our final hearing first started (it lasted about 8 hours) was to ask the judge to "not punish me, or hold it against me, for being a man."
What I meant by that, and what my attorney explained - as cordial and polite as he could - was that, as a male, I couldn't carry the child for 9 months but that did not mean I could not, or was not a nurturer. If you look up nurturer in the dictionary it doesn't specifically allude to a woman.
A "nurturing spirit" is based on the unconditional love you have for your child, no more, no less. I learned how to fix my daughter's hair - quite well; I already knew how to cook and clean, and I certainly knew how to love. That's what nurturing is all about.
No offense to the very capable mothers out there, but guys, don't fall into the trap of thinking that just because you are male, you can't be a nurturer. Don't believe me? Just ask Euphegenia Doubtfire.
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