Do you think that your wife talk about you when she hangs out with her friends? I feel mine does, but that would be OK as long as she didn't make fun of me.
Do you talk about your wife when hang out with your friends? Do you think they would do differently? Women talk not only to gossip but also to share their problems, and that includes us.
It's a shame but PB is right. For wife, sometimes we are part of the problem instead of the solution. I would hate it if she talked about me with her friends though.