When it comes to sexual problems, most men are notoriously uncommunicative. There’s a huge culture of silence that is place, and unfortunately, it prevents men from speaking clearly about problems like premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation happens to nearly all men at one point or another, and it can become a problem that stifles both sexual activity and emotional relationships. However, learning more about premature ejaculations takes away the fear and offers you some solutions.
The Mayo Clinic defines premature ejaculation as ejaculation that occurs before the man and his partner wish it to. This means that the definition is up to you and the person that you are engaging with. Resist the urge to compare yourself to what other people claim and what movies and media tell you. Premature ejaculation is only a problem when it negatively affects your life.
This condition is common among men who are having their first sexual experiences or their first sexual experience with a new partner. A certain sense of eagerness can lead to this condition, as can inexperience. However, this condition is by no means limited to these situations. Premature ejaculation is a very common problem that can strike any man.
There are several things which might cause premature ejaculation. For example, there are several psychological reasons why a man might have premature ejaculation. Guilt can cause a man to rush through sexual activity, as can a residual fear of getting caught, something that might have formed during early sexual encounters. Anxiety can also cause premature ejaculation, especially as it pertains to sexual performance. In some cases, premature ejaculation can be caused by a problem in the relationship, where a man may not completely trust his partner.
There are also a few biological factors that come come into play. Some thyroid problems can cause this issue, as can inflammation around the prostate or the urethra. Some men experience premature ejaculation when they are dealing with hormone levels that are out of the ordinary, or when they are experiencing an abnormal reflex activity in the ejaculatory system. In very rare cases, premature ejaculation is caused by nerve damage that occurs after injury or surgery. If you are concerned that your premature ejaculation is caused by something related to your body, take your concerns to a doctor as soon as possible.
When dealing with premature ejaculation, there are many avenues that are open to the man in question. For example, many men find that is a good idea to masturbate before having a sexual encounter. This takes the edge off of the anticipation, and it allows them to react in a calmer manner. Many sexual counselors also recommend simply stopping short of intercourse if you don’t know a partner very well yet or if there are trust issues. Stating a limit before the sexual activity occurs can help a man relax. This requires a great deal of communication between you and your partner, so brace yourself, and get the conversation started.
One method recommended by the National Center for Biotechnology Information is the stop and start method, where stimulation is halted for 30 seconds when a man gets close to orgasm. This reduces the sensation, which prevents orgasm and prolongs the sexual encounter. Similarly, a man or his partner can also pinch the tip of his penis between the glans and the shaft right before he orgasms. This prevents the climax from occurring.
If premature ejaculation is something that is affecting your life, it is time to consider what the problem might be. Talk with your partner about the issue and enlist their aid in this problem. There are plenty of solutions for you to try, and trying them out with a partner can help you build on your bond. This is something that takes some effort, especially if you are not used to discussing such things with anyone, but the payoff is worth it in the end.