There are many things in life that you just don’t plan for. Divorce is probably at the top of that mental list. It’s just one of those things that comes in life, and you find yourself is disbelief to know that you’re a participating party to the whole ordeal. This may take a serious strain on your well-being, but it will be even more devastating if you don’t have an exit strategy.
It’s a sad thing to say, but divorce is very much like a store that is going out of business. It would be a nice notion to think that the divorce can be a simple thing. The problem is that we all know this isn’t true. Just like the closing of a store the participating parties of a divorce must discuss bills and the financial break down of everything that was involved during the start up.
It doesn’t matter who made the decision to announce to the world that the blending of two people as one is officially become two separate identities all over again. Men need an exit strategy. It’s a common mistake to assume that the woman is the only party that needs to be concerned with the arrangements.
If there are children involved a man should make this a priority. The children usually opt to depart with the mother, and this often leaves the father questioning his visiting rights as well as the possibility of joint custody. For this reason and many more it is pertinent to obtain a divorce lawyer as soon as possible. It’s best to get contracts drawn up to establish specific rules. It would be nice to assume that your former partner would be an outstanding citizen and uphold any verbal agreements about visitations. Unfortunately verbal agreements are not the best forms of evidence in court. It’s best to get it in writing.
This goes for many other areas as well. If there is a specified amount of child support that was agreed upon it is important to get this in writing. It seems trivial now, but if you’re hounded for much more than the original agreement the situation can become extremely difficult. The same rule applies for alimony. Get a signed contract stating the amount that will be paid and know when you are expected to pay if this is an arrangement that has been agreed upon.
The financial arrangements will often spill over into the amount of debt that is owed between the two of you. If there is a home you must make an urgent decision on whether the home will be sold or occupied by one of the divorcees. You must also take the time to divide any other credit card or loan debt that may have been the result of joint collaborations. The situation may not be an amicable one, but things must be finalized in these areas.
In addition to debt you must also make amends on the splitting of money that may have been earned or saved together. This can be one of the biggest things to sort out. This gray area also falls within the area of valued household items and big tickets items. If there are items like cars, furniture, or big screen televisions that were purchased by both of you a decision has to be made on who will keep these items.
If you discovered that the two of you were not compatible these are things that have to be done before moving on with your lives. It’s no easy task, but it has to be handled. The major part of the exit strategy is to try to keep the communication lines open with your soon-to-be ex-wife. This is a process and it will be so much easier if you can talk without arguing through every detail of the divorce. Things will go much smoother if you come to some agreements.