She really told him she wanted a divorce in a letter? I'm sorry, but that sounds pretty cowardly. Poor guy. Did she cheat on him or something? Was he able to get to see and talk to his children or is it still being settled in court?Yeah, I know a guy who made a mutual decision with his wife to go to school and while he was at school trying it out for the first semester, she divorced him via the mail then wouldn't let him even talk to the kids on the phone. It was ugly.
I have a friend who is not allowing their ex to see the child until their divorce is set in stone. Nothing is final yet and nothing is actually bad, they mutually split but I do not get having the evil ex. What is the best way to go about this besides get a lawyer?
He can try to work through it on paper first; before getting an attorney. He can mail a letter requesting the children on such and such a date. If she later denies him, the police will allow the children to leave with him based on their written agreement.I have a friend who is not allowing their ex to see the child until their divorce is set in stone. Nothing is final yet and nothing is actually bad, they mutually split but I do not get having the evil ex. What is the best way to go about this besides get a lawyer?
Where I come from the police would say without a court order there is nothing they will do. I guarantee you that. Written agreements will not circumvent the law in any situation, and without a court-ordered document that the police can go by...they will do nothing. Oh, I forgot, they will do soemthing... they'll tell you to get a court order. Been there, done that.He can try to work through it on paper first; before getting an attorney. He can mail a letter requesting the children on such and such a date. If she later denies him, the police will allow the children to leave with him based on their written agreement.
It is unfortunate that the police would need to be involved - and some won't even go that far, stating it is a "civil" matter. But they are always more than willing to do "standbys" while parents trade children.
We also have a friend who split from his lady of eleven years and he is not having much luck seeing the children either becuase they refuse to see him without their mother present.
Best of luck!
They could try talking to each other. If breaking up is a mutual thing, then I'm guessing there is no bad blood between the estrange couple. So, it's possible that they could find the time to sit down and ask each other what they both need and want, most importantly having an open communication - and actually spending time - with their child.I have a friend who is not allowing their ex to see the child until their divorce is set in stone. Nothing is final yet and nothing is actually bad, they mutually split but I do not get having the evil ex. What is the best way to go about this besides get a lawyer?