New dad and old dad

[Phillie]

I’m a new dad and a step dad to a 7 year old boy. The kid is great! I fell in love with him and his mom. I can’t wait to do all the father/son things with him like ball games, camping trips, fishing, etc. He is a boy scout and they have an event coming up in a couple of weeks. He has asked me to go with him and I can’t wait. His “dad” lives in another state, he really has not been that involved in his life. Ever since we got married and I started doing things with my son, his “dad” is calling more often. I am glad and all, but I don’t want him to come between us – you know to make my son feel guilty because he is asking me to do things. I’m not sure that his “dad” is trying to do this but I don’t want him to. How should I handle the situation?

 

[Tony_The_Great]

I don't think it will get to be a problem because the "dad" is another state. He will never be able to fulfill all his duties as a real dad do. If at any point it feels that he is trying to create a wedge, you just need to have a talk with the guy. Most important of all, you will need to make your son that you will be there for him no matter who or what tries to intervene.

 

[Papa Bear]

No matter what happens or what intervenes, the children can tell who sincerely loves them.
Just be honest and sincere in what you feel and show it. They will know.