The Importance of Being a Good Dad

Parents may think that they are only a small influence in their children’s lives and they often underestimate the impact that they have on their overall development. Dads have a role in the psychological, social, and academic development of their children. The importance of being a good dad may not be addressed often, but those dads who put forth the effort will see the fruits of their labor as they watch their children grow into successful and well-adjusted adults.

Forming an open father-child relationship is part of being a good dad and important in trust building. When the lines of communication are open, children will not feel hesitant to share news with their dad for fear of being punished or berated. A feeling of trust will be formed. Children will learn that they can always go to their dad for advise or guidance on small issues as well as major problems.

Providing academic support is part of being a good dad and important in cognitive and professional development. Assisting with homework is part of it, but there is more. When dads help their child see the big picture and how reaching academic goals will benefit them after school, they can provide much needed motivation. When dads talk to their children about their interests and career dreams, they can then help them tailor an academic program that is geared toward achieving those aspirations. Dads can also become involved at the school to assure that their children are getting the best education possible and to get advice from their teachers as to how they can excel.

Children are observant by nature and are very likely to mimic the behavior and actions that their dad displays. Being a good dad means being a good role model and this vital for character development. Teaching your children how to succeed and become good people is one thing, but leading by example is even more important. Dads who demonstrate a good work ethic, good morals, positive interactions with others, and an overall civic-mindedness will see those qualities reflected in their children.

Being a good dad is also important in helping your children to form positive social relationships now and when they are adults. Fathers who teach social skills and also demonstrate how to behave appropriately in different social settings are more likely to have socially well-adjusted children. In addition, it is important for dads to speak to their children with respect. In most cases of abuse, the abuser was likely a victim when he was a child. Dads must keep in mind that bad traits as well as good are carried down to the next generation too.

Children who have good dads are less likely to have psychological problems. Depression, anxiety, and aggression are likely to manifest when fathers are distant, not involved enough, or abusive. Children who feel wanted by their father and are made to feel like an important member of the household will benefit psychologically. Dads who keep their love for their children in the front of their mind will be able to deal with difficult parent-child situations better. It is important for dads to “stay in character” and remember that their kids are their kids and not to become hostile toward them even when they start to push buttons. Dads must always take the high ground in dealings with their kids and remain the “dad” to reduce stress in the parent-child relationship.

Children raised by a good dad are less likely to show signs of delinquency. Good fathering is important to guide children down a path that will lead to success and achievement. Children do not inherently know how to do this. A dad who is there to teach my example, teach by relating their own mistakes, and provide structure for their children will see them develop into responsible and independent young adults.