The wife and kids and I always do something special for the holidays. The day itself is filled with going to our parents for the traditional Thanksgiving dinner - hers for the noon meal and mine for leftovers for supper and switching the next year. We choose another day to do something special with the kids and ourselves. That way, not only do they get to go to grandparents, but we're developing a tradition of family time, too. Does anyone else do that?