Books and People (Both virtual and offline) Helped
I am sure there are many fathers out there who look for support from their own fathers, when they in fact become fathers, esp. for the first time. What happens though when you do not have this option or another fatherly figure to look up to?
My father passed away when I was still single. Worse, he was a silent person so my memory of wisdom imparted is scant. My siblings were not very helpful either. Neither were my friends and drinking buddies.
So, I resorted to reading lots of books about relationships. I thought it was better than asking "stupid" questions. I ended up with books like Personality Plus by Florence Littauer, Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, Men are From Women are from Venus by John Gray. Forums in fatherhood have also been helpful.
Most importantly, there are people out there who are serious fathers. Just go and check them out. You might be surprised. Sometimes they're the people you least expect.