Step dad over dad.

[Jaxon]

Should a child feel guilty if he/she picks their step father over their biological father? If the step father is an overall better person than the bio dad, the child shouldn't feel guilty, right?

 

[Jeff]

Should they feel guilty no, but sometimes they just do. I was that way when I was younger. My step mom was a 100% improvement from my bio mother, and I quickly got over the inital guilty feeling. I am 35 now and my step mom adopted me when I was 22!

 

[PaPaul]

They may feel guilty whether they should or should not, as Jeff said, but really, I think it's not so much a matter of "picking" but of just recognizing that each man has different strengths, and perhaps the stepfather's are just strengths more helpful with parenting.

 

[SteppinIn]

I think that in some cases, it is a telling sign of the child's intelligence, to be honest. In many cases, a step-father DOES turn out to be better as a father and a husband, and some kids can tell. Not better in the buys-me-more toys way, but legitimately better.