Haha! Yes, when the softy gets mad, I can see why everyone would be compliant. No doubt they are thinking "Uh oh, we REALLY messed up this time!"I am more of the disciplinarian at our house. My wife is such a softie when it comes to the kids, but when she's the one mad, everyone becomes meek as lambs.
I grew up in the environment where it was "Wait until your father gets home." That dread of waiting until my father got home and knowing that there would be a spanking ruined the entire day. Also, this pattern that was set continued through the teenage years- my mother would try to discipline, but Dad was the only one we were actually scared of.Are you the one who gets to be the disciplinarian all the time or do you and your spouse assume the role equally? In my family, there's no "wait 'til your father gets home." My wife takes care of things just as well as I do.
I see that in my household too. The fear I have is if I'm not there, how will my son behave, especially in public. I've seen some bratty kids and I do not want one of those.Im more of the disciplinarian in my house. My wife is usually too nice to actually make any kind of threats. Most of the time its me who actually has to take action when my kids get out of line.