This has never happened to me before, but if it ever did, I would just say, "I'm flattered by your interest but I'm happily married." I could not and would not EVER risk ruining my marriage and losing my best friend by taking a woman up on an indecent proposal. It's just not worth it!!I would love to hear how you fathers handle unexpected "indecent proposals" from women? Not a lot of women will openly ask you out but for the ones that do, how do you explain that you are married, or maybe don't?
That's right. No point in sacrificing something which is sure and steady for something that is fleeting and uncertain.I would just say "Thanks but I'm married". I find myself attracted to other women on occasion but it'd never be worth losing my wife and family.
The bigger danger is that after you have done it once, you may do it again. And again. And again.When I was working in the Call Center industry a couple of years ago, an office mate walked up to my cubicle and handed me the key to her apartment, and told me flirtatiously not to be late. When I got over my initial shock, I smiled, shook my head and pointed at my ring. She got the message and left.
I love my wife and my kids. If I make a mistake once, I will never be able to look at myself or my family again. It is never worth it.
Anytime! I know too many men that DO cheat to think that you are ever going to get a large group of men (or women for that matter) together and not have a few who have stepped out at one time or another. Having someone else involved in your relationship is definitely not for everyone, and for the majority of people I wouldn't recommend it, because they are already not 100% honest with each other about everything. My wife and I have been together since we were 14 years old, and have been married for 9 years. We "grew-up" while we were already in a relationship with each other and that seems to make a difference. Most couples we encounter who participate in the same lifestyle choices we do are usually a good bit older than we are, and have been together for a long time.Thanks Bear, I know there has to be some cheaters in here!
You're right too, it's not for everybody, but if you both can be adults about it, it's not that big of a deal to have someone else involved in the relationship. But, the key is, both being adults about it. Most people can't do that. It's no big deal, it's just like you said, it's not for everyone.
That's the best kind though!I'm not married, but I know what I'd do in that situation and I have kind of a unique answer so I'll go ahead and reply anyway. I'm a polyamorist, I believe in loving multiple people if the situation arises. I would talk to my wife/wives and/or husband/husbands and see what they would think about me dating someone else. If they're ok with it, and chances are that they are, I would probably go for it. So long as it isn't just meaningless sex.