There is a time when the term 'Make it work' applies, and a time when it does not. I was in a relationship (not a marriage) for seven years. The woman was abusive, the last five years were with out any intimacy, and the woman stopped working for the last three years of the relationship, making me a meal ticket and a sucker. So was I a 'ghost chaser' because I finally told her after sever years that I would make sure the door did not hit me in the behind on the way out?
My wife comes from a dysfunctional family. Her mother was extremely abusive to her, her brother and her father. The only relationship her parents had was the extreme placating of the mother by the father. He stood by her no matter what. As it turns out, his only two choices were to leave and lose his children, or stay and have a ruined life. He chose the latter. As he got older, he got sick, and because all the abuse made him get sicker quicker, he died at age 71.
And then there are people who only stay together because of their religion. That makes me sick, and that is another reason why I have no use for organized religion of any kind.
'Make it work people' is way to general. Every situation is different, and NOBODY should stay with anyone when there is excessive abuse involved. Once again, children may complicate a situation like that.
Instead of saying 'Make it work people', I say,
"Take a step back. Sit down. Have a conversation with yourself, then with your partner. Come up with the right decision. Don't chase ghosts, but don't try to resurrect the dead either. And finally, as the song by 'The Little River Band' goes, listen to your heart. Are you still in love? Is your partner still in love? If the answer to one or both of those questions is 'no', then move on.