My two stepchildren grew up having me as their dad, so in my case, I'm not surprised that they love me more than their biological fathers. They haven't seen nor heard from their dads (one just passed away recently) in a long while, not their choice but the fathers. For us, it's really not an issue.If you had a stepchild that claimed to love you more than their biological dad, would you encourage that sentiment, or try to adjust it?
I think you have to be fair to the biological father and try to adjust it. Encourage her to love you, but that doesn't mean she should think any higher of either of you. Her father is always going to be her father, but you were willing to take her in as your family. I don't think it's fair to either to allow that to continue.If you had a stepchild that claimed to love you more than their biological dad, would you encourage that sentiment, or try to adjust it?
I feel you on that. That is probably what I would do, punch him out in front of everybody. It sounds messed up, but, in a way, I think it sends a good message, to everyone.I am in the reverse situation. My kids new stepfather is trying to bump me out of the way it seems. I live so far from them it is hard to combat. He his coaching their little league and a bunch of other stuff. I do not have any evidence he is trash talking me, but if I find out he is, dude is getting punched in the mouth. In front of the kids. I know this is a horrible thing, but it is what will happen.
Kind of pisses me off, because he is using my child support cash to shine.
Well, it depends. If their biological father genuinely loves them and does his best to care for them, I would encourage them to love him more. He is their dad after all and he is making an effort. Or I would tell them to love their dad just as much. If they can't, then at the very least I would say to not let their dad know that.
No, I don't think it's that uncommon especially if the step father comes into the picture when the child is still very young.Yeah, but it's such a rare happening that a step father is more loved than the biological one. Either the step father spoils the kid or the biological father must be a REAL lowlife or simply seen as too tough to the child.
No, I don't think it's that uncommon especially if the step father comes into the picture when the child is still very young.
Unless the stepfather goes out of his way to be unfatherly, the normal process of growing up with the stepfather will tend to create feelings of love from the child for the stepfather.